Monday, March 31, 2008

Rain

Last week my husband and I submitted our second offer on the house I've mentioned, and we included a detailed letter explaining the reasons for our low offer, at our realtor's suggestion. My prayer as we signed the papers was that God would make it clear one way or another. It has been difficult waiting, as I continue imagining ourselves in that house, arranging furnishings and selecting paint possibilities.

The next morning we learned that another offer had been placed on "our" house the same night, and as the other bid was higher than ours, it was accepted. Later in the day, we decided to try again by countering with our maximum price as there was a contigency that allowed for other offers within 72 hours. We learned over supper that our third and final bid had once again been rejected. Tears of disappointment streamed down my face when I heard the news. It's hard to let go of this one, but I have to trust that God has something else in store for us.

As I've grappled with the finality of the decision, God has brought two specific things to mind to give me comfort and assurance: one, Proverbs 3:5-6; and two, the lyrics to a powerful song.

24 comments:

Anonymous said...

What a disappointment -- and yet I'm sure something better is waiting for you! In the meantime, you continue to be in our thoughts and prayers. Love you, Mom

Niki RuralWritings said...

"Your" house is out there waiting for you! I know it's disappointing, but in hindsight we see these things often go this way for a very good reason. We'll keep your family in prayer.
Hugs

Rebecca said...

Dear Carrie,
I am so sorry - and know how you are feeling right now. When we were getting ready to move we found a house that I knew would be perfect for us. There was no doubt in my mind. We filled out all the paper work - only to get a phone call that said the house was already rented. I was so sad and frustrated. But, you know, the Lord provided this house that we are in - and it is much much better than the one I originally wanted. I am really so glad that first offer did not come through. The Lord will do the same for you - just watch his hand of faithfulness and provision. I will continue to lift you and your sweet family up in prayer as you walk this road to your new Home Sweet Home. :)

Love,
Rebecca

mer said...

Carrie...

I'm so sorry. We had a simlar experience when moving here. We made an offer on a house that we liked that had been on the market for months without a single nibble, and the day we bid on it, so did two other families with offers higher than ours. Ours was rejected and we were so sad.

In retrospect, I'm glad that we didn't get that house after all. Just a little over a year later, my husband quit his job, and there's no way we could have afforded the mortgage on his freelance salary. It was a blessing in disguise, but at the time it was rather hard to swallow. Hang in there. I know there is a great house out there for you!

mer said...

PS--Apparently I forgot how to spell "similar" when I posted the above comment.

A, B & C said...

Oh Carrie, I'm so sorry! But it's true that you should just trust in God's wisdom. The house that is meant for you is out there and it will work out when it's supposed to happen.
When we walked in "our" house, we both knew that it was meant for us right away. Despite the fact that we were the lowest bid, we got it due to complications with the two higher bidders. Have faith and your house will find you.

Amy said...

Oh, Carrie, I am so sorry. I know that is such a disappointment for you guys and I know you are ready to get to the next stage in your life. I am sending lots of prayers and good thoughts your way!

Katie said...

I need to remind myself of Proverbs 3:5-6 so often!! I'm sorry that your offers on the house you had your heart set on were rejected. I have been praying for your family and your house hunting process. When I've gone through similar times where something didn't work out, I've had wonderful Christian friends remind me, that when one door is closed, God opens another one ~ usually even better than the first. Your grasp of accepting God's timing is inspiring to me. That is always so hard!! I'll keep praying and I hope you are feeling better!! :-)

Blessings,
Katie
Romans 8:28

Linds said...

I'm sorry for your disappointment. That's so hard.
But take heart, God can do immesurably more than all we ask or imagine!

That song has been a great encouragement to me in times of unknown as well.

Linds

MyHeartIsAlwaysHome said...

It's hard when your plan isn't the same as God's plan. Disappointment is hard. I know you will find the home meant for you and will be so grateful for this unanswered prayer. Hang in there Carrie!

thehomespunheart said...

Carrie - I've been praying for you in this.

Frances said...

All the ladies have offered wonderful encouragement and perspective in their comments above. I, too, cried this weekend with disappointment that God's plan doesn't seem to include what I think will be best. I will keep praying that we can both wait "with joyful hope."

Lauren@Baseballs&Bows said...

I am so sorry for your disappointment! I pray that very soon you will find the house that will make you glad you didn't get this one!

Susan said...

Carrie,
I am so sorry. I know there is something for you. I am praying for you about it.
Susan

Kara K said...

Carrie - so sorry to hear about your house loss. Something will turn up, as you know, these things always happen for a reason.

Ewokgirl said...

I'm so sorry this didn't work out. Hopefully, it just means that there's an even better house out there waiting for you in the near future.

Sarah B. B. said...

God's time is not ours, and that's SUCH a difficult thing for me. You will find your house, and this will be a distant memory. *hugs*

Angela - Life w/ One Busy Boy said...

I'm sorry for your disappointment. I have definitely had my fair share and have had many opportunities to look back and be thankful for many of them as something much better came along that I didn't expect. God's plans are bigger and better than we could ever imagine! Hang in there!!

Jthemilker said...

Sorry Carrie. I know this frustration as many of your other readers do. God is faithful and His time is perfect. I have to remind myself of that all the time. Bless you.

Anonymous said...

Dear Carrie,
I know how hard this is. My family and i relocated last march. In the process of trying to find a home we kept being turned down. We simply could not pay so very much for home. The process was made extra long because i was living in one city and my hubby workin and living part time in the relo city. I have 4 children and felt like a single parent. Anyway I cried out to Jesus, He had gotten hubby the job ,He knew how hard living apart was for me, HE also knew the plans He had for me. After lookin at about 30ish houses and offering on many GOD in his amazing mercy allowed us a house that we NEVER could have afforded at our price!!!!! The whole story is very cool. Wait on HIM, HE has the perfect home already in mind for you. AND HE makes NO MISTAKES. tammyp

Jan said...

I'm sorry Carrie. 10 years ago we waited on "our" house for four months...the offer had been accepted but the owner just didn't move out. Our original house had been sold, we needed to move so finally had to cancel the contract and buy something else. I wanted the first house so badly that I couldn't even drive past it for several years.

With time I can see how we are better off where we are. The first house had a smaller yard set on a hill. Tiny rooms. The hardwood floors and crystal doorknobs wouldn't have been much consolation if we could only get around the bedroom by climbing over the bed! But it was hard to see those things when I was in love.

That's where you are now. Like any breakup, it will take time before you feel better. Just don't waste a season of you life moping around like I did! Find something else to focus your energy on, for me it was the sweet puppy we got that spring. I'll be looking forward to hearing soon about the house that is REALLY meant to be yours.

gail said...

carrie,
oh sweetie, i hear your heart. it is so disappointing to be rejected. we don't KNOW or SEE, so we must TRUST. certain songs and verses help when i am in that place. i'm glad you can find comfort thru the same.

we found some great student housing for fall, but we can't apply yet and i'm hoping against hope we can get in. it has a waiting list. i know i will feel that same sting of disappointment if we are turned down.

hugs! gail
ps i got my computer fixed and i'm so happy!

Anonymous said...

OH Carrie:
With so many of us praying for you, I'm sure the Lord has something very special in mind for you & Eric & Nathan. We have all had major disappointments in life, but in retrospect, we can always see God's hand in it all. Amen to Romans 8:28 and Prov. 3:5-6.
I'll keep praying!

Love you, Grandma

Karon said...

So sorry! I think there must few things worse than having to deal with real estate -- the stress is unbelievable. We were on the other end, desperate to sell -- these times are a true test of faith and great builder of trust in God and His immense power. He's holding you close -- don't forget that! Wishing you all the best!

Many blessings,
Karon

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