Reader’s note: Carrie’s blog has been temporarily invaded by a guest author, her husband. Since tomorrow (Saturday) is a milestone day for her (hint: her birthdate is 1/24/79), I thought it was only appropriate that her birthday plans are revealed to her on her own blog.
Birthdays have been a big deal in her family, so like most males, I’ve naturally felt a bit of pressure to do creative things to honor her day. Milestones present even bigger tasks. So does planning for someone 7 months pregnant in a cold, icy climate.
Of the many books written about relationships, one of my favorites is this one. (OK, so I admit to inserting this link so I felt like a real blogger). Since a birthday should be a day in which the birthdayee should feel honored and loved, each language will be fulfilled as follows for Carrie on Saturday, January 24:
Acts of Service: One of the fun perks at my place of employment is that we get the day off on our birthday each year. Thus, I think it is only appropriate that Carrie is given the day off from her normal duties. She’ll start the day with our birthday tradition of breakfast in bed. I will then get our son out of bed, fix his breakfast, and he will be with me all morning. Carrie will be free to stay in bed if she chooses, to go to a coffee shop if she chooses, to have a retreat if she chooses…in other words, responsibility will be gone but choice will not. Lunch, if she chooses to join us, will be at noon. She will not be permitted to do any laundry, cleaning, or other items on her to-do list during this day.
Quality Time: From 4:30-10, a babysitter will come to our house and Carrie will be escorted by her husband to a nearby city in our 2002 Saturn. Once there, we will dine here, which is among her favorite places to eat. After a relaxing dinner, we will run a couple of inevitable errands, because that is what we do (this also falls under acts of service, as I really don’t like to shop!). Since errands can bring a bit of stress, we’ll leave some time to unwind by book browsing at Barnes and Nobles. Then we’ll move to the final destination of the evening’s adventure…
Gifts Given: The final destination might not seem like much to many of you. The “gift giving” language is the lowest of the five on my scale, and since I had to exhaust all my ideas for Carrie at Christmas, I’m going to cop out by allowing her to pick her own gift. It so happens that my least favorite place to shop is Carrie’s favorite: Here. I don’t like the place due to the fact that I’ve almost committed crimes while in the return department there. But, that is a whole other blog post as I’ve digressed. Typically, if I shop here with Carrie, I make rules like, “we have to leave in 22 minutes max” or “nothing in the cart that isn’t on your pre-made list of 8 items”. January 24, 2009 will be an exception. In addition to fulfilling her inevitable list, she’ll have $30 to buy anything she wants, guilt-free, and can take as long as she wants.
Physical Touch: Don’t worry, I won’t make this awkward. She’s 7+ months pregnant, remember? When we arrive home, and she is ready for bed, she’ll be treated to a back massage to end her day.
Last but not least is her #1 Love Language: Words of Affirmation. This is where all of you blog readers come in. I know that in some way, whether in person or through her blog, Carrie has impacted your life in a positive way. It is time to inundate her with the blessing of words from people she cares about. To keep this simple and to avoid putting pressure on you to write a book, I am requesting that on Saturday, January 24, each of you would, in the form of a comment on this blog post, affirm Carrie in one specific way about who she is…perhaps a character trait, a skill that she has, something you’ve learned from her, etc. I realize it is hard to narrow it to one, but that is the beauty of combining a community of comments for Carrie (alliteration intended). Thank you for your help.
Happy Birthday, Carrie! I love you, and I look forward to celebrating with you tomorrow. You deserve every ounce of love you will feel this day, and I am privileged to be in a permanent alliance with you. May God grant us many more birthday celebrations ahead . . .
Footnote: A special thank you to my sister-in-law, whose password knowledge and blogging expertise made this post possible.